I have always loved to have candles around and one word that friends used to describe our home before we had children was “candles”. Candlelit diners, candlelit parties, candlelit Sunday brunches. Candles and tea during the coaching sessions in my office.
My friends told me that I will need to give up candles when I will have children but in fact it just became a shared passion with my daughter.
We light candles for celebrations but also in our daily rhythm to mark the beginning and end of our meals, to bring awareness during our tea ritual and yoga sessions. We use them in the cold, dark winter nights and we light them in our garden during the warm evenings, under the glorious sunset light.
The only thing that changed about candles is that we now make them together. And it was my daughter’s idea.
In one of my daughter’s favorite books, Liv and Emy make their own candles for a candlelit diner and my daughter asked me if we can try to do the same. I have bought some 100% pure beeswax made in Austria during our last trip to Vienna and some organic cotton wicks.
To make beeswax candles with your child you will need:
a couple of pure beeswax sheets (avoid paraffin and other chemical additives)
2 pairs of scisors (one for you and one child- friendly pair of scisors for your little one)
It is pretty easy, you will see:
First, prepare your beeswax sheets. If your beeswax sheets are too big, cut them into the size you need. Our are 10 cm x 40 cm and I find this size perfect
Cut the wick, a bit longer than the size of your sheet. Leave around 1 cm on the upper side and a bit less at the bottom of your candle
Place the wick at the edge of your sheet. Pay attention to the direction of the wick, otherwise it won’t burn. The wick has a pattern like the ear of corn and this needs to be directed downwards
Roll the beeswax sheet on the wick. You will need to press a bit at the beginning so that it can stick together. Continue to roll it carefully
Cut the wick. Leave 1 cm on the top and cut everything left outside at the bottom of your candles
Place it in a candle holder, in a jar, a lantern… and lit light it. Let your little one do it and explain how to safely use matches and light a candle. This is a great opportunity to talk about safety, fire and your family’s safety rules around candles and matches.
As for any handiwork or crafting I do with my daughter I intentionally focus on my own work and let her do hers. I usually put the material on the table and each of us works on her own “project”. If she asks me to show her first, or if she asks for help during the process, I show her the way I do it but let her the choice to follow my lead or not. Usually, she figures it out and does things her own way. I made a conscious decision since she started making arts and crafts to interfere as less as possible because I believe that this way I can provide the space she need for her own creativity.
Candles have many significations in different cultures around the world and I’m sure I will someday discuss it with this with my daughter but for now they are ways of